Heartily sick of drama

[treeskin]

Well, I finished and sent that letter last night. The response I got was not what I had hoped; I had been hoping that X would address my question more directly. I will go back and read it again later when I'm more awake.

I just don't know anymore. X is pushing, still, for more information--IM logs, anything X can think of. But none of that has made X any happier, or even that much better informed, I think. If X doesn't know who or what to trust anymore, then how is having IM logs and my old journals going to help? It's nothing new, there's not information there. In fact, X has already seen most of the content, in one form or another.

There is a finite amount of "truth" in this, and frankly, most of it obscured by time and passions and the memories of busy people. The ongoing "voyage of discovery" will not solve anything.

I think X is upset about a set of comments I left in dot_poly_snark last month, and I'm afraid all I can think of for a reply is "hey, I need to vent too". We've been involved in this since the end of May, first at Y's request, then Y & Q, then X. Okay people, enough. If you don't like what's said, it's up to you to change it. We didn't make these choices, all we've done is try to help you figure out how to climb out of the hole you've dug. You don't like the advice, stop asking.

I don't like how much self-analysis I've started doing--what can I say, and to whom? what will they think when I do thus-and-such? will this statement come back to haunt me? I've even started wondering if Pet wasn't an honest attraction, but a search for escape from the stress, which would not be fair to him at all.

And I'm going to spend the day alone, so my mind will likely stay in the spiral it's already in. Argh.

Comments

[noveldevice.livejournal.com]

I think that when you told X that you weren't going to stop being Q's friend, X decided that when you're not for her, you're against her, and she is looking for signs that you're attacking her so she can be hurt and mad at you guys too.

She's acting like a child.

Further, by her antics and immaturity, she's pushed the two people who were actually supporting her to the point where they can't take it anymore. This is all her. People are deserting me, she sobs. Well, yes. When you demand that they choose between you and someone else, when you interrogate them relentlessly, when you subject them to your constant drama...yes. People will desert you. There has to be some kind of positive payout to friendship, or it's not friendship at all. She says she wants friends, but I'm not so sure she realizes that there's a difference between enablers and friends.

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

As much as I want to believe you're wrong, I don't think you are.

I say again, humans. Mrph.

[noveldevice.livejournal.com]

Do you know anything about hydrangeas? Like, if you're supposed to prune them in the fall or anything? A has some out-of-control hydrangeas.

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

Depends on the type. If it's the big pompom-type (Hydrangea macrophylla), you prune right after they bloom, because they form next year's flower buds on the wood that grows from July-Sept, and pruning now would cut them off. Take about 1/3 of the old wood at a time; you can prune them progressively shorter over 2-3 yrs.

Personally, I don't like to prune things with hollow stems until spring, because you can get water in the crown of the plant, which can freeze or rot the crowns. (So hydrangeas, most mint family, perennial sunflowers....)

Hmmm. My Forest Farm catalog says the same treatment for the other kinds. *shrug*

That about exhausts my knowledge of hydrangeas.