I think the common thread here is that first, they don't see that limits and boundaries are something you impose on yourself, rather than something your partner imposes on you.
We need to include this point in our point in our poly seminar. This is a much clearer expression of what I was trying to tell Y last week.
Veto power...is exerting a control on your partner. However, my rationalizations are as follows. First, it's mutual. Ranj and I have equal say over each other's relationships, because we recognize that our pair-bond is the most important thing in our lives. Second, it's reciprocal: Ranj has the power because I have given it to him. And vice-versa. Neither of us has tried to take that power, or impose it on one another.
This too. In fact, you mind if I lift this paragraph and send it to X as food for thought?
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Date: 2003-10-03 01:57 pm (UTC)We need to include this point in our point in our poly seminar. This is a much clearer expression of what I was trying to tell Y last week.
Veto power...is exerting a control on your partner. However, my rationalizations are as follows. First, it's mutual. Ranj and I have equal say over each other's relationships, because we recognize that our pair-bond is the most important thing in our lives. Second, it's reciprocal: Ranj has the power because I have given it to him. And vice-versa. Neither of us has tried to take that power, or impose it on one another.
This too. In fact, you mind if I lift this paragraph and send it to X as food for thought?