Fuckity fuck fuck
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treeskinI got out of class really early tonight, because half my class didn't show up, and going through people's drawings pre-presentation goes really fast that way.
So, I called my sister, to check on her.
In summary, to spare you (and because I can't, and don't want to remember all the nasty little details):
The non-immediate family first, because that's easier to deal with. Mom's cousin, the one in Saudi, found out she has a 3" tumor in her brain, last week. They've done surgery, she came through fine, haven't heard what the prognosis is, but I'm told she's pretty upbeat. **crosses fingers** (I've only met this cousin twice, but she and Mom are still close, so this affects how much Mom-maintenance I need to do.)
Second, Sis told me that one of our first cousin's daughter's (did you follow all that?) is knocked up and dropped out of school. She's 16, and due in August. Her mother, my "works at Walmart white-trash" cousin, is thrilled to have a grandchild on the way, and is not at all worried about A dropping out of school. L, the girl's mother, got pregnant her senior year of high school, and barely finished, because her father made her. L isn't the brightest penny in the jar, and would have barely finished school without the added difficulty of a baby.* We'd all had higher hopes for L's two daughters, because they had more potential than their mother, and looked like they might be using it, but now....both girls are out of school, and B is only 14. L says it's because she was wanting to transfer B to a different school that wouldn't do that in the middle of the semester, but that's bull. **shakes head again** Not much to be done on that score.
And now, what you've all been waiting for: what has my sister done now?
She made it back from Mississippi--20 hrs there, 23 hrs back, since the trip back was from Florida (because Harry thought the boys would enjoy it, and insisted). She ended up stranded in Tulsa, exhausted and with just enough for a hotel room for the night, but not enough money for that and gas home. Her boyfriend took care of that, so he's good for something. (Her boyfriend also fixed Harry's truck, because he knew how, and Harry wouldn't send her money to take care of it.)
Harry sent his check card home with her, then called and had it shut off an hour after she left.
Sis's divorce isn't final yet. The paperwork's all done, except for the part where Harry picks it up and signs it. He's refusing to go pick it up. Conceivably, he could drag this part out the whole time he's active duty, and keep her in limbo. Once he's no longer active, she can force him to do something, but not until then.
Oh, and that part where he said at the beginning that he wouldn't contest it? Yeah. You guessed it too.
That part where she told him about the boyfriend right off the get-go? Ya'll were right about that too.
According to her cell phone records, he made 4000 minutes' worth of calls to her in the past month, tyring to talk/cajole/argue/threaten her out of completing the divorce. She's keeping the records, as evidence of harrassment.
He had someone break into the house while she was in Mississipi, to take pictures. He told her that his friend (the one who's getting all of Harry's paychecks while he's on active duty) had come over to fix the locks, but the neighbors told her that the guy broke in, wanedered around taking pictures, THEN fixed the lock (but not the window in back, which he broke to get in to begin with). Harry's trying to prove she's an unfit parent. Not that that will go very far, with her working for SRS, but it's still stressful. He told her he's going to file for full custody of the youngest (just over 2, now) when he gets back, so his son will have a chance to get to know him. (And yes, Sis had something extremely snippy to say about that one.)
She's also been told by some of her neighbors that Harry has people watching her and following her around town. Which is problematic, since they're reporting to him how often she's gone, and she has a job were she's on call for a week at a time, and on-call may mean making a trip to Dodge City to pick up a kid at 9 at night.
For the first time that I've ever heard of, Harry's family is by his side, and thinks Sis is the Whore of Babylon. It's very odd. Always before, he could never do anything good enough for them to notice, but there you go.
HE called our mother, because he thought Mom needed to know that Sis was shacking up with some guy, and that wasn't good for her grandchildren. So now Mom knows about the boyfriend, and isn't happy. Sis has been telling her that Harry blew the relationship out of proportion (from what I've heard, he didn't, but hey, if it keeps Mom's blood pressure down).
Mom called Sis's husband and unloaded on him (called him an unfit parent, abusive to Sis and the kids, the whole bit). I was all excited about that part, until Sis told me Mom called him back a few days later and apologized (because that wasn't Christian behavior). **shakes head**
*Yes, Tristan, this would be one of my boogan relatives. The daughter, not my uncle. My uncle has spent all of his working life writing accounting software for banks. But he lives in, for Kansas, a fairly large city, and let his kids go wild in their teen years. The son has finally (in the past 5 years) become a responsible adult, but the daughter never did, and never will. I don't know where L got her rather Arkansas-ish ideas of what your daughters ought to be doing at the age of 16.
So, I called my sister, to check on her.
In summary, to spare you (and because I can't, and don't want to remember all the nasty little details):
The non-immediate family first, because that's easier to deal with. Mom's cousin, the one in Saudi, found out she has a 3" tumor in her brain, last week. They've done surgery, she came through fine, haven't heard what the prognosis is, but I'm told she's pretty upbeat. **crosses fingers** (I've only met this cousin twice, but she and Mom are still close, so this affects how much Mom-maintenance I need to do.)
Second, Sis told me that one of our first cousin's daughter's (did you follow all that?) is knocked up and dropped out of school. She's 16, and due in August. Her mother, my "works at Walmart white-trash" cousin, is thrilled to have a grandchild on the way, and is not at all worried about A dropping out of school. L, the girl's mother, got pregnant her senior year of high school, and barely finished, because her father made her. L isn't the brightest penny in the jar, and would have barely finished school without the added difficulty of a baby.* We'd all had higher hopes for L's two daughters, because they had more potential than their mother, and looked like they might be using it, but now....both girls are out of school, and B is only 14. L says it's because she was wanting to transfer B to a different school that wouldn't do that in the middle of the semester, but that's bull. **shakes head again** Not much to be done on that score.
And now, what you've all been waiting for: what has my sister done now?
She made it back from Mississippi--20 hrs there, 23 hrs back, since the trip back was from Florida (because Harry thought the boys would enjoy it, and insisted). She ended up stranded in Tulsa, exhausted and with just enough for a hotel room for the night, but not enough money for that and gas home. Her boyfriend took care of that, so he's good for something. (Her boyfriend also fixed Harry's truck, because he knew how, and Harry wouldn't send her money to take care of it.)
Harry sent his check card home with her, then called and had it shut off an hour after she left.
Sis's divorce isn't final yet. The paperwork's all done, except for the part where Harry picks it up and signs it. He's refusing to go pick it up. Conceivably, he could drag this part out the whole time he's active duty, and keep her in limbo. Once he's no longer active, she can force him to do something, but not until then.
Oh, and that part where he said at the beginning that he wouldn't contest it? Yeah. You guessed it too.
That part where she told him about the boyfriend right off the get-go? Ya'll were right about that too.
According to her cell phone records, he made 4000 minutes' worth of calls to her in the past month, tyring to talk/cajole/argue/threaten her out of completing the divorce. She's keeping the records, as evidence of harrassment.
He had someone break into the house while she was in Mississipi, to take pictures. He told her that his friend (the one who's getting all of Harry's paychecks while he's on active duty) had come over to fix the locks, but the neighbors told her that the guy broke in, wanedered around taking pictures, THEN fixed the lock (but not the window in back, which he broke to get in to begin with). Harry's trying to prove she's an unfit parent. Not that that will go very far, with her working for SRS, but it's still stressful. He told her he's going to file for full custody of the youngest (just over 2, now) when he gets back, so his son will have a chance to get to know him. (And yes, Sis had something extremely snippy to say about that one.)
She's also been told by some of her neighbors that Harry has people watching her and following her around town. Which is problematic, since they're reporting to him how often she's gone, and she has a job were she's on call for a week at a time, and on-call may mean making a trip to Dodge City to pick up a kid at 9 at night.
For the first time that I've ever heard of, Harry's family is by his side, and thinks Sis is the Whore of Babylon. It's very odd. Always before, he could never do anything good enough for them to notice, but there you go.
HE called our mother, because he thought Mom needed to know that Sis was shacking up with some guy, and that wasn't good for her grandchildren. So now Mom knows about the boyfriend, and isn't happy. Sis has been telling her that Harry blew the relationship out of proportion (from what I've heard, he didn't, but hey, if it keeps Mom's blood pressure down).
Mom called Sis's husband and unloaded on him (called him an unfit parent, abusive to Sis and the kids, the whole bit). I was all excited about that part, until Sis told me Mom called him back a few days later and apologized (because that wasn't Christian behavior). **shakes head**
*Yes, Tristan, this would be one of my boogan relatives. The daughter, not my uncle. My uncle has spent all of his working life writing accounting software for banks. But he lives in, for Kansas, a fairly large city, and let his kids go wild in their teen years. The son has finally (in the past 5 years) become a responsible adult, but the daughter never did, and never will. I don't know where L got her rather Arkansas-ish ideas of what your daughters ought to be doing at the age of 16.
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Date: 2006-03-22 03:37 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2006-03-22 03:42 am (UTC)Please, share. It'll make me feel better.
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Date: 2006-03-22 03:55 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2006-03-22 04:10 am (UTC)So. There's the story.
Kuh-ray-zee. But as Ranj pointed out, 25% of women said in a poll that they'd been molested by a family member--no one thinks it can happen in their family, but it's a lot more common than most people want to admit.