I really do know better. Honest.

[treeskin]

I called my sister last night. Hey, it was her birthday, I'm kinda supposed to. She was not having a happy birthday...and it was 45 minutes before I could get her off the phone and escape the "what's wrong with my life" saga.

The good news is, she's actually contacted a bank (one who's never heard of Harold's family, and so will allow her to start an account without her husband) about getting a loan to consolidate the bills that are just hers (leftover school stuff, I think), and to pay for a divorce lawyer.

The bad news is, Harold has been threatening her with all kinds of things, from outright violence if she "takes his sons away", to a lawsuit for forging his signature on checks. Which, of course she has, what wife doesn't? But she's quite worried about it. To the point where the "new" bank account is in a friend's name, "in case something happens to me before the divorce is final." **shakes head**

At least she's working on getting out. Finally.

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perspective

[iarraidh.livejournal.com]

What I find when I have to interact with those people what raised me...

Once I have cleaned the spooge offa me...

Is that I am so much better than they would have allowed me to be, and I *will* have the dreams and happiness they lack; they cannot reach...

The Dreams and Happiness they would rather deny Me, too...

Re: perspective

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

You know, when she first started having marital problems (about 6 months into the marriage), I just figured they were young. Then, when it got bad, I thought, uncharitably, that my sister was trying to re-enact our parents' marriage; she had all the same problems.

Now, I look at her kids, and think that except for Mom's act of courage, that would have been my childhood.

All I can do for her now is let her vent, and try to offer nonjudgemental, practical suggestions.

While I hate seeing her this desperate, I'm also glad she's finally reached the end of that rope, and decided to start climbing instead of sliding further down. With the last talk we'd had, which included her self-medicating, and our family's history with that, I was VERY worried.

I'm not tearing myself up about this; like I said, this isn't anything I can fix, or really even help with. I just watch, and worry a little, and then do my best to change the subject.

Re: perspective

[iarraidh.livejournal.com]

THAT, my dear, is the healthiest, most helpful path for you both at this point.

I wish you continued strength in keeping from getting drug back into the quicksand. I know how hard it can be.

-hugs-