Listening to the news makes me cranky

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So, can someone explain to me why two people getting married is such a threat?

Those of you who know me in person, know I'm married, and know that my spouse and I have been together a long time. We're pretty secure in our partnership. Neither of us have ever felt that gender had much to do with the partnership, beyond the joy we find in "putting tab A into slot B".

A dear friend of mine is planning a commitment ceremony with his partner. I'm not threatened. I'm thrilled, thrilled that he's found someone that makes him happy.

I just don't understand how two people commiting to each other can be a threat. People in stable, loving partnerships are healthier and happier than those who aren't. Why isn't this good for society?

I don't think we should define marriage purely in terms of a man and a woman(*). I don't even think we should define marriage in terms of producing children; that's not realistic, in this time. I think it's a social contract, a commitment two people make, to deal with the rest of the world together. It's a decision to think in terms of "us", rather than "I". It's a difficult choice, it takes work, and I think that anyone who chooses it, and earnestly does their best to make it work, deserves credit. Gender should have nothing to do with it.



* I'm leaving any discussions of plural marriage out of this for now, although I support and have participated in one form of it, once upon a time. What the Mormons did, and still do, strikes me as coercive and unequal...a polyamorous group, entered into by consenting adults with eyes wide open, that's a different thing.

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Back in the days of The Daddy, one of my classmates wore a t-shirt for gym class that said "George Bush: President or Noxious Weed?" Wonder if she still has it.