She said.....

[treeskin]

let there be tea, and there was tea, and the world was--well, better anyway.

When I got back from rehearsal, By told me he'd talked to my sister. The second of her tests (a second blood serum test) also came back positive for Down's. She's trying to get in to the hospital in Wichita ASAP for amniocentesis, which is the most reliable (and most invasive).

She's already decided, if it is Down's, she's going to abort. She's not sure how she's going to convince her husband, but she told By (rightly so, in my opinion) that she just didn't have the time/energy/resources for a child that needed that level of care.

That's all she knows right now; By said she wasn't chatty at all (unusual for my sister).

Hopefully, Mom is doing better...dunno if Sis has told Mom this yet, but Mom tends to be better with problems if there's a potential solution in place.

Comments

[tnrkitect.livejournal.com]

Tea is good. I am so sorry to hear about your sis's prognosis, and wish there was something thought provoking, apropos and comforting, but the best thing I can think of Is I am keeping her your mom and you in my thoughts. ---{@

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

Thanks hon. I appreciate it.

[noveldevice.livejournal.com]

I think she's made the right decision. It's got to be tough, and I'm sorry about that, but she has to think about herself and Jake. Can she just not tell Harry until it's already done?

I'm thinking good thoughts for her.

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

Knowing my sister, that may be exactly what she intends...have it done and over with before he can argue.

I am immensely cheered by the fact that my mom also thinks this is the right decision, that's a big help for Amy.

And according to By, the prospect of another child to take away from his play money has convinced Harry they don't need more kids, and maybe him getting fixed isn't such a bad idea after all.

[draco-kc.livejournal.com]

I know that all of this has got to be rough on her, but it sounds like she's got her wits about her, which is better than many would be in her situation. I'm also glad your mother is being rational about this, too. I was wondering how her current belief structure was going to handle this. Her support and yours will undoubtedly be a big help when it comes to dealing with the spousal unit.

[treeskin.livejournal.com]

Amy is generally a practical unit (except for the whole staying with Harry thing).

I, too, was worried about Mom's reaction, but when she was passing on the news on Tues, Mom said that *she* thought an abortion would be Amy's best option, if it was Down's. I almost fell over; I've never heard Mom say she thought that was a good solution for any reason. (Needless to say, Mom knows nothing about my own experience in that area. Some things, parents aren't meant to know.)

Not sure how helpful I will be when it comes time for Amy to deal with the spousal unit...most of my suggestions involve a large cast-iron skillet and his head.

I think this is a kind of emergency Harry's never had to deal with before: it's nothing he can fix, or bully, or break, and he's panicked (undertandable, but not at all helpful). Couple that with an untreated anxiety disorder --"If I take my pills the Army won't let me play with the big guns anymore" (no, I'm not kidding, he said that) -- and a country-bumpkin macho streak that interfers wth his good sense. Not helpful at all.

[c3fyn.livejournal.com]

Gods! I'm very sorry to hear that. Hugs to thee, and thy sis.

[ladymurmur.livejournal.com]

Tea is high on my list cures for many ills.

*hug* My thoughts are with you all.